Thankfully, most people don’t have any serious physical problems. There are problems you can have but most are not too bad. At least most of the time. But there are some other problems that people have that can be serious and long lasting. Absolutely devastating. And it is a lot of people!

So many people are suffering from doubt, anger and fear. A lack of confidence and self-esteem. Afraid to go out. To try something new. Or just try anything. Not happy with themselves. Expecting the worst. Afraid or distraught, everyday.

All of these are things that exist in our heads. We read books, go to seminars, watch videos and visit therapists just to change the way we think. We spend a lot of time and money just so we can see ourselves differently.

The Cure Is To Think Differently

Don’t get me wrong. This is real. This is a real problem sometimes just as bad or worse than a physical problem. I have this problem, too. And there’s nothing wrong with trying to get help for it. It’s just that sometimes it’s amazing how so many of our problems, maybe the majority of them, are because of what we think. How we view the world in our heads. And the cure is to think differently.

Not always. Sometimes you have a chemical imbalance that causes depression. That is a physical problem that requires medication and therapy. But if your depression and anxiety is caused by a lack of confidence or self-esteem or thinking that things will never get better then that’s a different type of treatment. That requires a different outlook. A new way of viewing yourself and your world.

You thoughts can make you miserable or set you free

Sometimes it’s just amazing to see how some people are suffering over what they think and others are not. One group sees things differently than the other. In many, many cases that is the only difference. Your thoughts can make you miserable or set you free.

Maybe you don’t have a chemical imbalance but you have had a string of bad luck like losing a job or a loved one. Or you don’t look like a model or a bodybuilder. Or you’re short. All these things can affect the way you think. Maybe you don’t have a lot of money and don’t have a nice car or nice clothes.

Not Being Cavalier

I’m not being cavalier by saying the cure is to think differently. I really think it is, but I know that’s easier said than done. I struggle with it, too. But it has helped me a lot to realize that attitude can make such a big difference. A positive difference. Sometimes it helps me to think about how things would be different if I thought differently. It’s certainly entertaining to explore all the possibilities. It’s easy to do when alone and in the comfort of my own home. I like to image what it would be like to not worry about what others think of me. That’s one of my favorites.

Possibilities – How things would be if you thought differently?

What are the possibilities? What would it be like if you just thought differently about some things? Not if things changed but if you changed. Your attitude about them changed. We spend so much time and money trying to change our thoughts. We want confidence. What is confidence? It’s when you think confidently and that you can achieve what you set out to do or handle it if things don’t go well.  We want happiness. What is happiness? It’s when you think things are going well or they’re not but you know you can handle it until they do get better.

What are you saying to the self-help gurus?

“Here’s my money for your course. Now, make me think differently. You don’t have to change any concrete things going on in my life or any of my circumstance. Just what I think about them. You don’t have to change what’s really going on. Just how I see them. You don’t have to give me any new abilities that will boost my confidence. Just make me feel confident the way I am. All I’m asking for is new thought processes.”.